दोस्ती भी एक धर्म है, विश्वास जहाँ खुदा है।
द्वेष,जलन,खेद,पतन हर भाव से यह जुदा है॥
Another year has passed and my social struggle continues. I am always blamed to be a very non social and some times even a very anti social guy. Don’t know up to what extent these perspectives are true. But the roots of friendship which is strengthen by same pains, sufferings and problem’s where same working place and unfamiliarity with the new system act as fertilizers and catalyst. But soon thorns are spread on the straight path of friendship due to difference in views, self praising and the tendency of dominance and leadership and “I am the best “concept. Ignoring ours faults and over hyping others fault. Ignoring others talent and over praising ours talent. Slowly block politics comes into the act and get nourished by personal disputes and communication gap. It is eutrophicated by back biting and back stabbing which surely reaches other’s ear in an amplified form.
So many times it deviates the concept of an ideal society in my mind. How can you manage to live in a company where every one dislikes you?? Every one having different perspective and prejudices about specific person and some times if you are neutral person then you are stretched like a spring from every side and eventually every block gonna blame you that you are not with them and always favour the other one. So without having any fault you become the primary culprit.
But still we never leave to be a part of society. All this –ve effects are easily nullified and compensated by the strong +ve effect of friendship. A feeling of warmth, intimacy and security is always with you when you are a part of any friendship circle. You are never alone. Your annihilators are also your healers. You have to be a flexible tree to sustain the greenery and beauty of friendship. Straight and rude trees are always cut and blown away by the storms of misunderstanding.
I never understand this that when misunderstanding is developed between people due to communication gap, why they avoid straight face to face talk to clear all the disputes and doubts. People keep on thinking from their own prejudiced mind and blame other without even knowing others intentions and criteria. Soon they avoid and ignore the other person and without any valid reason the delicate thread of friendship are broken. If again it is joined then there are always some knots in it.
रहिमन धागा प्रेम का, मत तोरहु चटकाय।
टूटे से फिर ना मिले, मिले गाँठ पड़ जाय।।
I’ll end the post by a poem written at 31st December 2007 dealing with similar circumstances and in hope of transparent relations in the upcoming year.
हँसते रोते एक और वर्ष गया बीत
अब गाओ खुशिओ और दोस्ती के गीत
बीता हुआ साल बहुत कुछ गया बदल
पंरतु फ़िर से उठ और जा सम्भल
विधाता तो हमेशा ही लेगा तेरी परीक्षा
सामना कर और सुःख की कर प्रतिक्षा
जब टुट गयी थी दोस्ती की क्च्ची डोर
क्यों हो गया था तू निराश, कमजोर
इतनें से सकट में डाल दिये हथियार
क्यो हताश हो मान ली हार
सुःख दुःख का तो चक्र चलता ही रहता
सह लिया जिसने उसी ने पायी सफ़लता
अपने मन मे आशाओं की ज्योति जला
मत सोच तेरे अपनों ने ही तुझे छ्ला
परिस्थिति को ही तु दे दोष
दुसरो की खुशी देख कर ले संतोष
मत रख अपने ह्र्दय में कोइ बैर भाव
वरना बीच मझधार में डुबेगी तेरी नाव
क्यो देता है दोष तु दुसरें को
पहले जीत अपने खुद के मन को
बस तू कर ले एक बार कोशिश
छोड़ अब भूल जा आपसी रंजिश
आ गया नववर्ष आशओं भरा
अपनी उम्मीदो पर उतर तू खरा
बता दे जग को तू क्या है कर सकता
तेरी ईच्छाश्क्ति के आगे कोई नहीं है टिकता
मै तो बस प्रार्थना ही कर सकता हुँ खुदा से
करना तो है सब तुझे अपने आप से
नव वर्ष पर उठ खड़ा हो बता दे सब को
क्या है तु क्यों जरुरत हैं तेरी जग को
