मेरे मित्र न तेरी चलेगी न मेरी
फिर क्यों तलवारे खीच ले
चल आ गले लग कर
नम आँखों को मींच ले
my facebook status few days back
" Don't let emotions always hover on you... choose the correct market to publicize ur emotions .. mark downfalls on sand so that they remain temporary in ur memories and good experience on stones to have permanent impressions"
The harder you try to flail in the sea of emotions to come out, the deeper you go inside it. Many times I found all my surrounding completely trapped in these emotional tornadoes destructing their mental piece and nerves. I am not an exception either but yet I can proudly brag as I have good control over all my emotions and never let myself to bow down. But some time circumstances become very vehement and you feel helpless. These emotional storms just seize your peace and make you unstable so that you can’t enjoy any essence of joy at that time.
Why these things happen? Not going in too much depth of it but one of the most common reasons is to being hurt by someone close to you. You don’t really bother if someone strange or less familiar act harsh to you but even a single hard step shown by your close one pierces your heart vehemently. You feel helpless at that time keep on thinking why this damn thing happened with me. These emotional wounds and pain make you suffer more than any snake bite, and there is no permanent heeling for them.
The only culprit I found in these circumstances is expectations. We expect a lot from our close ones and when they fail to perform at par, we lost our temper and entangle in emotional assaults. We forgot all the good memories and time that with share with them. All sort of help and other stuff that they have done especially for us and keep on saying “ usne mere sath aisa kyu kiya”. Some revenging people even start planning “ ab batata hu use .. aisa sabak seekhaunga rota rahega jindagi bhar “. We don’t contemplate the situation the way it should be and we can’t blame ourselves as we have lost the control on our nerves. Tears may give temporary relief but soon the intensity of pain increases at an alarming rate till there is a communication gap.
Since past 6 years I have been a favorite victim of this new widespread epidemic. Time to time I have been indulge in this bizarre and worthless activity wasting lots of time and weakening me internally. I never understand why people misinterpret me that much. Some rare monuments of double standard I always found in my social life who think that they can pull my leg as forcefully as they can( come on people it’s not made of rubber) but can’t endure even a touch of mine( d0n’t misinterpret it . I’m not gay) . It always introduces a mental trauma, whether I should socialize or remain aloof. My internal being of superiority always deviate me to opt for later one and 9 out of 10 time I would go with it. Still I call my friends ( no matter whose fault was it , ur or mine ), tell them I am very sorry and you were right to vanish this communication gap and found new bridge of understanding. I place my attitude in side and bow down and I found no harm in it. So I am sorry … am I?? You have to think that.
Sunday, September 26, 2010
Thursday, September 23, 2010
R you impressed ??
जो न थे वो बनने की चाहत में
क्षणिक प्रभाव की राहत में
शीशा देखा तो चौक उठे
खुद को भुला बैठे खुद की ही चाहत में
“You never get a second chance of making a first impression “
This quote always seems scary to me as it conveys the meaning of giving a concrete impression on any one in the first encounter to mark good prints of yours personality, so that when rescanned the outcomes are clear and positive. But is it always possible to impress someone in the very first meeting? First of all, if the counter person is attractive or talented, in both the case you gradually lose your confidence and fail to act at par with your potential.
Another question which haunts, how should you be packed before representing yourself to the other? Should you act the same way you are or you must modify and mold yourself trying to impress the other one. It was a nice extract of the TV show “ the suite life of zack and cody” that whenever cody tries to talk with a beautiful girl he starts talking peculiar, very long and awkward stuff, stammering and farting. It depicts a much generalized picture of our social life. We are always very shy and don’t know how to communicate and socialize with strangers. Initiation of a talk appears much difficult, same as we keep on gazing our course book for hours before exam but never dare to open it.
But we never focus on the mental trauma of the other person. He is also entangled in the cobwebs of same mental trauma. He also thinks the same. He too is over concerned about his image and the kind of impression being reflected from his demeanor. Barring some over smart, self praising people who keep on shouting and praising themselves, a major portion of the mass faces similar difficulties while talking with strangers.
With the initiation of my college life when I decided to hang my arrogance and attitude and initiate good relation with all, I faced a very queer situation when lots of people started misinterpreting the way I use to act. Some say I have very artificial and fake accent and some other even doubt on my character as I faced some very harsh rebuff. I decided to do a deep introspection and contemplation and came to conclusion that I should act the way I am. There is no point in living a masked life just to please someone. People must learn to accept you the way you are. Some may like you some may not. Its neither a compulsion on any one to praise you nor you can compel them. So choose a group of your matching frequency and enjoy the life at its best, gradually upgrading yourself rather than changing yourself for pseudo impressions.
क्षणिक प्रभाव की राहत में
शीशा देखा तो चौक उठे
खुद को भुला बैठे खुद की ही चाहत में
“You never get a second chance of making a first impression “
This quote always seems scary to me as it conveys the meaning of giving a concrete impression on any one in the first encounter to mark good prints of yours personality, so that when rescanned the outcomes are clear and positive. But is it always possible to impress someone in the very first meeting? First of all, if the counter person is attractive or talented, in both the case you gradually lose your confidence and fail to act at par with your potential.
Another question which haunts, how should you be packed before representing yourself to the other? Should you act the same way you are or you must modify and mold yourself trying to impress the other one. It was a nice extract of the TV show “ the suite life of zack and cody” that whenever cody tries to talk with a beautiful girl he starts talking peculiar, very long and awkward stuff, stammering and farting. It depicts a much generalized picture of our social life. We are always very shy and don’t know how to communicate and socialize with strangers. Initiation of a talk appears much difficult, same as we keep on gazing our course book for hours before exam but never dare to open it.
But we never focus on the mental trauma of the other person. He is also entangled in the cobwebs of same mental trauma. He also thinks the same. He too is over concerned about his image and the kind of impression being reflected from his demeanor. Barring some over smart, self praising people who keep on shouting and praising themselves, a major portion of the mass faces similar difficulties while talking with strangers.
With the initiation of my college life when I decided to hang my arrogance and attitude and initiate good relation with all, I faced a very queer situation when lots of people started misinterpreting the way I use to act. Some say I have very artificial and fake accent and some other even doubt on my character as I faced some very harsh rebuff. I decided to do a deep introspection and contemplation and came to conclusion that I should act the way I am. There is no point in living a masked life just to please someone. People must learn to accept you the way you are. Some may like you some may not. Its neither a compulsion on any one to praise you nor you can compel them. So choose a group of your matching frequency and enjoy the life at its best, gradually upgrading yourself rather than changing yourself for pseudo impressions.
Saturday, September 11, 2010
Bald it like Beckham
ना जांचो किताब को पन्नो से
न आंक पाओगे उसे फिर छंदों से
बाहरी चमक से जो आँखे चुंधिया जाये
तो फिर भीतर के हीरे कहा से पाये
“ man , you have sexy hairs “
“ ek dum shahrukh jaisa lagta hai yar .. mast baal hai tere “
“ ek dam alag hairstyle hai teri “
Above references reflect a clear image of one of my highest achieved possession and how possessive I always was (better say is) for my hairs. But guess some joys have hidden pain packages for life time. My temporary beauty gave permanent wounds and pains after they started vanishing. Hairs were one of the supreme parts of it. But since I’m losing them and it’s inevitable I can just minimize my pain by thinking positive. If we can’t find any shiny side then better to polish the dark ones.
First benefit is having a separate identity. No longer a part of the mob. All of them are having hairs but you do not. People can easily recognize you by the adjectives “ wo ganja “ .. “ that baldy “ .. “ wo chand “ .
No wastage of money and time on shampoo, conditioning and oiling. No tension of dandruff and other stuff.
No more gazing of mirror for long hours thinking “ mere baal acche nahi lag rahe” … “ ye hairstyle theek nahi hai change kar leta hu”
No more long waiting at barbers shop where people discuss everything from parliaments to pigs .. selection of Indian cricket team to reviews of new movie released .. finance of America to recession in india .. from poets to pen cakes .. a complete free news channel covering whole world and even alien and ufo stuff.
No more attraction towards girls and feeling insecure about your personality. This seems the ultimate advantage. You can concentrate on your grades and other stuff coz you no longer bother about your personality and your impression on other.
You are in league of rare personalities like Michael Jordon, Jason Statham, Vin Diesel, Bruce Willis, Andre Agassi, stone cold, Rooney and many others…
Lastly no tension of having white hairs, hair fall and getting bald coz you are already on the extreme stage.
After thinking a lot and paining my nerves finally I came to conclusion that there is no need for any conclusion. Hairs though an important part in ones personality but comprises only a negligible part of it. I can fill rest of the gaps to cover this weakness in which I have no control. I’m privileged to have head which lots of people lack seriously only the cover has blown off. So it would be better to give more emphasis on study , career , personality improvement and enrichment and enhancing knowledge from different dimension rather than crying on worthless problems. So people I don’t care how beautiful your hair are , I am bald and beautiful and I don’t give a damn to it.
न आंक पाओगे उसे फिर छंदों से
बाहरी चमक से जो आँखे चुंधिया जाये
तो फिर भीतर के हीरे कहा से पाये
“ man , you have sexy hairs “
“ ek dum shahrukh jaisa lagta hai yar .. mast baal hai tere “
“ ek dam alag hairstyle hai teri “
Above references reflect a clear image of one of my highest achieved possession and how possessive I always was (better say is) for my hairs. But guess some joys have hidden pain packages for life time. My temporary beauty gave permanent wounds and pains after they started vanishing. Hairs were one of the supreme parts of it. But since I’m losing them and it’s inevitable I can just minimize my pain by thinking positive. If we can’t find any shiny side then better to polish the dark ones.
First benefit is having a separate identity. No longer a part of the mob. All of them are having hairs but you do not. People can easily recognize you by the adjectives “ wo ganja “ .. “ that baldy “ .. “ wo chand “ .
No wastage of money and time on shampoo, conditioning and oiling. No tension of dandruff and other stuff.
No more gazing of mirror for long hours thinking “ mere baal acche nahi lag rahe” … “ ye hairstyle theek nahi hai change kar leta hu”
No more long waiting at barbers shop where people discuss everything from parliaments to pigs .. selection of Indian cricket team to reviews of new movie released .. finance of America to recession in india .. from poets to pen cakes .. a complete free news channel covering whole world and even alien and ufo stuff.
No more attraction towards girls and feeling insecure about your personality. This seems the ultimate advantage. You can concentrate on your grades and other stuff coz you no longer bother about your personality and your impression on other.
You are in league of rare personalities like Michael Jordon, Jason Statham, Vin Diesel, Bruce Willis, Andre Agassi, stone cold, Rooney and many others…
Lastly no tension of having white hairs, hair fall and getting bald coz you are already on the extreme stage.
After thinking a lot and paining my nerves finally I came to conclusion that there is no need for any conclusion. Hairs though an important part in ones personality but comprises only a negligible part of it. I can fill rest of the gaps to cover this weakness in which I have no control. I’m privileged to have head which lots of people lack seriously only the cover has blown off. So it would be better to give more emphasis on study , career , personality improvement and enrichment and enhancing knowledge from different dimension rather than crying on worthless problems. So people I don’t care how beautiful your hair are , I am bald and beautiful and I don’t give a damn to it.
Friday, September 10, 2010
Having no talent is also a talent.....
इस जटिल जीवन में
हर हुनर के कद्रदान है
पर बिन हुनर के जीना भी
क्या किसी हुनर से कम है
“So what talent do you have “.
This question always confuses me but I have frequent encounter with it again and again in my life. Is having a talent become necessary in surviving or survival in this complex world is also a talent. All your surroundings have people filled with immense talent both masked and unmasked leading you to feel inferior in your frame of reference. At the same time you are the source of envy to someone else. Talent is never a generalized thing rather it depends more on ones perspective. Talent must be publicized on an apt platform else only negative outcomes will come.
In reference to the question referred above some frequent answer that I have encountered yet are “ ummm can’t say exactly but I can sing well “and a little trailer of his singing will put you in the stage of utter inferiority and envy. “Nothing serious just a few thing I can play on guitar “and then your friend gonna play all the complex tune on guitar which you have liked always and dreamed of playing ones. “talented …. It is your quality yaar I can just do a little dance” and next day the fellow gonna rock the dance floor making you transfixed and stupendous.
Writing , which so far I was considering as a unique quality of mine also betrayed me. Lots of young prodigy having writing skills so better and a very different taste is hovering me now. Some thoughts of highest quality are nourishing in the land of creativity of many of my contemporaries having some aid from their own obstacles and life experiences. The count of multi-talented people is increasing at an alarming rate so that we talentless people are in danger of extinction. We desperately need some reservation help now. Same person is writing poetry simultaneously playing guitar and singing, a rock band in a single entity.
But it all depends on ones perspective how he deals with these new challenges. A record is always meant to be broken so one mustn’t content with his small achievements. Self praising and arrogance are the keys of one’s demise; instead one must be working on his betterment again and again. We can’t run away from this race rather we are compelled to keep on moving again and again. But we must felt privileged that every step is a lesson in this race and learning never stops here. To have a different persona in the mob we have to reframe ourselves enhancing our unique and different qualities or sowing seeds of new ones.
But do make sure not to cover yourself with rust of proud. Keep enhancing you talent thinking you are talentless. Don’t compare instead compete. I stopped feeling inferior after the resolution of upgrading my talents i.e. writing instead of poking my nose in someone else’s talent. I stopped imagining myself with all the talents of sachin,Jackson,ronaldo, amitabh and others. I’m myself in a single frame of reference and I do not have to change myself for a pseudo impression on anyone else’s. A mirror can judge me best so no need of limiting myself and judging from others criteria. So those people having lots and lots of talent here I am bragging that I have the most unique talent that is a null talent coz I haven’t any perfection in any talent but always in a constant up gradation process.
हर हुनर के कद्रदान है
पर बिन हुनर के जीना भी
क्या किसी हुनर से कम है
“So what talent do you have “.
This question always confuses me but I have frequent encounter with it again and again in my life. Is having a talent become necessary in surviving or survival in this complex world is also a talent. All your surroundings have people filled with immense talent both masked and unmasked leading you to feel inferior in your frame of reference. At the same time you are the source of envy to someone else. Talent is never a generalized thing rather it depends more on ones perspective. Talent must be publicized on an apt platform else only negative outcomes will come.
In reference to the question referred above some frequent answer that I have encountered yet are “ ummm can’t say exactly but I can sing well “and a little trailer of his singing will put you in the stage of utter inferiority and envy. “Nothing serious just a few thing I can play on guitar “and then your friend gonna play all the complex tune on guitar which you have liked always and dreamed of playing ones. “talented …. It is your quality yaar I can just do a little dance” and next day the fellow gonna rock the dance floor making you transfixed and stupendous.
Writing , which so far I was considering as a unique quality of mine also betrayed me. Lots of young prodigy having writing skills so better and a very different taste is hovering me now. Some thoughts of highest quality are nourishing in the land of creativity of many of my contemporaries having some aid from their own obstacles and life experiences. The count of multi-talented people is increasing at an alarming rate so that we talentless people are in danger of extinction. We desperately need some reservation help now. Same person is writing poetry simultaneously playing guitar and singing, a rock band in a single entity.
But it all depends on ones perspective how he deals with these new challenges. A record is always meant to be broken so one mustn’t content with his small achievements. Self praising and arrogance are the keys of one’s demise; instead one must be working on his betterment again and again. We can’t run away from this race rather we are compelled to keep on moving again and again. But we must felt privileged that every step is a lesson in this race and learning never stops here. To have a different persona in the mob we have to reframe ourselves enhancing our unique and different qualities or sowing seeds of new ones.
But do make sure not to cover yourself with rust of proud. Keep enhancing you talent thinking you are talentless. Don’t compare instead compete. I stopped feeling inferior after the resolution of upgrading my talents i.e. writing instead of poking my nose in someone else’s talent. I stopped imagining myself with all the talents of sachin,Jackson,ronaldo, amitabh and others. I’m myself in a single frame of reference and I do not have to change myself for a pseudo impression on anyone else’s. A mirror can judge me best so no need of limiting myself and judging from others criteria. So those people having lots and lots of talent here I am bragging that I have the most unique talent that is a null talent coz I haven’t any perfection in any talent but always in a constant up gradation process.
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