The word triggers lots of emotions in us specially in the final year crowd. This word
looks pretty normal in the first 3 years of engineering; we never give it a
serious thought and are very casual about it. We see our seniors going through
it and we always relate ourselves to the best ones and hope to repeat their
success or even perform better than them. In some way, we are always in a
comfort zone that we would excel and would perform exceptionally well. But, if
only life goes as we visualize it in our fantasies. When we actually go through
the placement procedure what comes out is a very changed form of us. Both, the
successful ones and the failures, no one is same afterwards.
Most of us are not mentally prepared for failures
and don’t know how to tackle ‘rejection’. The reactions of other peoples and
constant nagging from irrelevant relatives and people studying elsewhere make
the situation worse. Our faith in our abilities is heavily shaken which
unbalances our whole life. We start doubting almost everything; our past
achievements, our brilliance, our talent; our capabilities. This also puts a
question mark on our future ambitions and we are not sure whether we will be
able to achieve them or not or as a matter of fact whether we are eligible
enough to even give it a try or not. We all start with the big IIT dream and
getting a fat package like 20+ lakh and after our initial dream to reach the
best elite institutes of countries is crushed we somehow compromise and start
to think about grabbing the best companies of our own college. We see mass
recruiters with the same eyes as we used to see local colleges (most of us are studying in these
colleges now) that time and never think about getting into those until they are
the only hope. Then comes a time where we are so much in doubt that even the 3
lpa package which once we used to think is far below our dignity and standard
starts looking unachievable. We doubt that whether we will make it to any
company or not.
The origin, reason
and main source of all these problems is the highly intellectual suggestions
and comments of ‘other people; the pseudo specialists of every problem’. They
always have something to say. If you are successful then it was because of your
luck and procedures were easy and best suited for you. If you are unsuccessful
and sad then you are the typical ‘cry baby’ and ‘Mr. complaining’ who isn’t competent
enough to get into the companies and is now crying everywhere. If you are not
complaining and happy thinking that luck wasn’t with you then you will meet the
‘angoor khatte hai’ crowd who will smash you everywhere by saying that since
you didn’t get into that’s why you find everything unfair. Lastly, if you do
not care about your failure at all then you are hiding and pretending but deep
down you are extremely hurt and affected. So beware of these experts and try to
shield your mental peace from them as much as you can as these people harm our
self confidence the most.
Most of the humans are either ‘masochist’ or
‘hypocrite’. Those who should fairly contemplate the situation and give a clean
chit to themselves start doubting on their own capabilities and tag themselves
as useless and looser while those who really weren’t capable and need
significant hard work and improvement start blaming situation and their luck.
Such contradictions prevail almost everywhere in our country. Those who must
complain start crying and those who must cry start complaining.
If we carefully retrospect all the events with an
unbiased mind and in a third person frame of reference we can easily infer that
at times all we lack was some amount of luck. May be that day was not yours but
some other time, some other day or in fact some other person judging your
performance; you could have easily cleared it. Failure never means that we were
not capable enough or lacked the desired qualities. One must never doubt
oneself on such occasions. Even if there are some shortcomings then those could
easily be identified and rectified. There is always a next time and there is
always the scope of a bigger success. I don’t want to repeat clichés like how
Amitabh Bacchan became a mega star after getting rejected by all India radio
initially for improper voice or the life incidents of Michael Jordon or Abraham
Lincoln. But success after failure is something we observe in day to day life.
I have seen people losing their entire faith and
confidence after one failure. People get intimidated, life appears bleak and
daunting to them. Hope became a dangerous thing driving them insane. They
started living in a world where they are not only incapable but also unlucky
and victim of cruel claws of destiny. I never understand how we can be so
stubborn that we allow a single event to judge our entire life. Can certain
people or a system or an exam decide whether we are capable enough to be
successful or not? Surely the people who got selected were capable, no doubt,
they indeed got the required skill sets to get a place in the company but the
one who didn’t make it were no lesser capable. Life ditches us when we trust it
most but this is one thing that we must accept now that life never go as we
plan it else there would be no thrill in living it.
We have lived our life for 20+ years and only we
know what we are capable of doing and what we are not. Whether we have done
proper justice with our life or not and no other person can issue a certificate
on our abilities and decide our fate. We must put efforts for the sake of
improving ourselves and for the sake of adding values into our life not for
getting into certain organization and getting a certain package. At the end of
the day it’s all about how satisfied you are with the life you have lived and
only we can decide that not some other person or organization or society. We
must be confident enough to know our potential and then what we need is to be
patient. Sooner or later, appreciation and acknowledgement will come indeed.
Sooner or later, we will definitely get success and reach where not only we are
destined to be but also we deserve to be.
Lastly, we have to give up our urge to prove
ourselves better and distinct always. The constant longing of getting success
everywhere and standing above everyone. Success provides joy but failure is a
complete package. You can introspect, analyse think about your flaws and
weakness, there is an ample scope of improvement. Failure insures that you won’t
fail at the next level if only you know how to use failure properly. Don’t
think about the society, don’t think about your friends and circles, and don’t
think about your own expectations and the standard you set for yourself. Just
release yourself from all constraints and carefully assess the situation and
think what went wrong, what you must have done and what you mustn’t and what to
do to ensure you won’t repeat your previous mistakes. At the end of the day
life is too large to declare ourselves as a persistent looser and opportunities
come and go if only you have the willpower and urge to keep on fighting and
struggling.
ALL THE BEST EVERYONE FOR UPCOMING PLACEMENTS!!
