Thursday, February 16, 2012

Frenemies.... you can't avoid them

So you think you have more friends than you have enemies or more enemies than you have friends. But guess the correct case would be having far more frenemies than both friends and enemy. Now there isn’t any lord Voldemort in your life so that you can tag someone as pure enemy, friends may be there as shown in movies, but one can never know what they think about you. But frenemies, they are everywhere, quite responsible person, as they have to act like friend in front of you and enemies behind your back.

Now, how to identify a frenemy? The problem is that, you can never identify them unless someone else reveals their true colors. A frenemy, no matter how dumb and stupid he is in real life, is always at peak of wisdom when he is playing his game against you. A frenemy has excellent pretending and faking skill and they never give rise to any situation so that you or anyone else can point their finger on them.

So, how to solve this growing painful problem that can’t be identify as it has no visible symptoms. For this we have to look at the origin of frenemies. Frenemy usually originate from misunderstandings. Misunderstandings originate when either you have not given enough space and confidence to your friends, so that they can talk with you anytime or you didn’t choose right friends who can’t trust you no matter what you do. Frenemies multiply like deadly viruses. They keep on influencing other people and soon you have a large mass against you and you have no idea of it.

So only 2 precautions could be taken if you want to fight or better say avoid frenemies. First, give a close place to only those people in your life whom you can trust and they can trust you in return. Second, avoid misunderstandings and try to clear things as soon as possible as you can. People knowing you better can hurt you best, as they know exactly where to hit so be careful people. Even true friends can’t save you or make you aware of true frenemies.

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

As per me In general no need to be over cautious and extra careful to start with.Rather keep expanding your work areas,Knowledge.....So called fr-enemies may get converted to true friends and well wishers and appreciators.
Positivity only positivity will lead us to true success.

Mayank Sharma said...

yeah, no doubt positivity would lead us to true success but conversion of frenemies into true friends and well wishers is always a tough task, it can't happen automatically, personal efforts have to be given for that !! thanx for ur feedback :)

Pradeep said...

Nice article... I enjoyed reading it and got to learn something good today :)

I don't think positivity has anything to do with this. But what I know for sure is that once you have somehow identified such a person, be cautious when dealing/talking with him/her.

Mayank Sharma said...

Thank You Pradeep bhaiya :) yeah that's right, we have to find such persons and some hard steps must be taken at right time before too much damage is done ! :)

akshay said...

hiii.........liked the article a lot.....

SURESH MOORJANI said...

the most important factor that leads to the generation of frenemies is jealousy AND EGO .....