We are just friends, what are you saying ?

As the title suggests, I’m gonna talk about friendship and love once again. One of the most monotonous topic I think but it keeps on emerging in front of me again and again. Only the faces and places change and some times the circumstances. So the newly free teenagers who just enter the college are the most vulnerable victimस of the most deadly and painful disease called love. Its symptoms are not very apparent and when you finally realize you are in love, it is too late for any medicine to work. You can only share your pain with others and it is a positive surprise that many of your friends that seems superficially emotionless and practical are also its victim and are suffering more than you.

So now I will take you the point where the whole thing begins. Yes people … I’m talking about the very first interaction of a girl and a boy in the college campus. Some may become wounded by cupid’s arrow in the first encounter; other may resist for a long time but eventually drop down their arms. Some have a forced crush as at first they have no feelings, but their friends keep on talking and make them to dream about some one so they are also caught. And finally the rude ones, after getting jealous again and again by watching their fellow friends in a relation, they also quit eventually.

Now the problem phase starts. If u are lucky you can get a line segment like relation. You have crush on a girl and that girl too have a crush on you. Story ends. Waittt…. But there is a small problem here... in fact a big problem … known as ego problem… We people always deal with double standards. In most of the fields in life we want to be the first one, the initiators, but while proposing to some one we do not want to be the first one. The blame can be poured either to fear of being rejected or to the inner ego. Well it has one positive aspect too. We are on the safe side and prevent girls from having the excuse that we didn’t propose u it was you who came behind me.

Some gaanv chaap mentality people still think that getting into a relation is a bad thing and only misguided and much frank people do that. Some others are just confused that their lover may prove a hindrance later to their future, ambition and career. Some are just concerned about their image that getting into a relation would be a severe blow to their good social image while some keep changing decision and keeps on fluctuating eventually getting exhaust and reach no where.

But what if the person you are having a crush think you just as a friend. This is the only time when the word friend sounds to be the harshest word to you. But you can’t do any thing about it. You are not the choice of your choice but you have to respect her choice. Love is a self-inductance property not a mutual inductance once and it can’t be induced forcefully. Although I believe that it follows Lenz law some time. Emulating it I can say that if you run behind a girl she would ignore you but if you start to ignore her she would run behind you. A love is induced in any case, which opposes the change that causes it. The bottom line is that, don’t miss the chance of having a soul mate. Just go on, express your feelings, bow down on your knee and tell your love that “ we are just friends what are you saying as for me you are everything I want “

A poem by me showing the confusion that whether she is a friend or soul mate.

कभी हाथ को हाथ से स्पर्श कर सकुचाती हो
कभी हाथ थामे रहा बतलाती हो
कभी कंधो को पकड़ होले से दबाती हो
कभी कंधो को जकड़ थपथपाती हो
कभी एक पहेली बन उभर आती हो
कभी खुद सुलझन बन खिलखिलाती हो
बुझता रहा हुँ ताउम्र तुम्हें मैं
हर रोज नया पेंच ले आती हो
कभी सखी कभी प्रेयसी
कभी ख्वाब कभी हकीकत
कभी मंजिल, कभी राह
कभी धूप, कभी छाह
कभी मेरे मन के साहिल से टकराती लहर
कभी ह्र्दय में उठा तुफ़ान का कहर
तुम्हारे साथ से मन हर्षित तन पुलकित
असंयम अस्थिर असहाय सा चंचल चित्त
सोचता हुँ इस कशमकश से
मेरे मन की असमजस से
तुम्हें अवगत कराऊ कैसे
इस रिश्तें की जटिलता तुम्हें बताऊ कैसे
खो न दु इस ख्वाब को
इस फ़रिश्ते नायाब को
स्वप्न दुस्वप्न न बन जाये
अगर चला बदलने मै किस्मत के अलफ़ाज को
बने रहो वो प्रकाश तुम जीवन में
महसूस तो करु पर छु न सकु

ps: originally written in November, I had to postpone its posting numerous time due to various personal problems :P :P :P