Life of a pretty girl.........!!!!!!!!!!

Yes, she was a pretty girl, and the world never missed a single chance to remind her that, in both ways, good and bad. The one thing that annoyed her most was the unwanted attention that never left her ever since school days and that’s the one thing she could never get rid of. Being a pretty girl, she was popular, famous and known everywhere. She was approached by many; she was tired of tackling with multiple futile attempts to get close to her. Even if someone is not trying to talk to her, she knew that she was not alone, she was always accompanied by constant gazes and stares of people that followed her till she didn’t disappear from their sight and she knew that she would still continue to exist in their fantasy world.

She was judged for all and judged by all. Her every act was scrutinized in detail by everyone around her. If she is enjoying her life, then they will tag her with all sort of negative adjectives. If she is scoring good marks, then people would be astonished and surprised that how is she doing that despite being a pretty girl. If she is participating in any extracurricular activity, then she is selected to increase glamour in the event, if she won then solely because she is a pretty girl. Numerous times she is snatched with the credit of an achievement and eventually all her accomplishments were summed up as one single accomplishment, “She is pretty”. 

Though she was always surrounded by people, she was close to only few people, and even those few  misunderstood her time to time. It was very easy for any person near her to feel intimidated by her and sometimes she herself was scared from it. There was always a long list of people who hated her. Boys hated her because she didn’t talk to them or didn’t reply to them or didn’t behave nicely with them. Girls hated her because they felt envy and insecurity because of her and she had a tendency to take away attention from them. Teachers hated her because they thought she had neither brains nor will to hard work, she has no sincere plans to study. Her cousins hated her because they feel inferior because of her.

It wasn’t the case that everything was gloomy and negative in her life. There were lots of pros associated with her life and she has learnt how to use them, though she was tagged as ‘opportunist’ and ‘exploiter’ but she has learnt not to mind harsh adjectives as they were going to remain a part of her life. She knew that the attention she gets can easily be used to get some favors without harming anyone. She knew people were willing to help her and she has somehow convinced her mind that she is doing no wrong  by taking help. Little did she know that what appears casual to her was deep inside raising hopes of many persons.

One problem she constantly faced since growing up, lack of a good friend. She always felt that she requires a confidant, a mature and strong support, an understanding person who would show the right path to her every time she felt lost. In the process of finding a friend, she lost many. Often people confused her friendship with love and as it happens, everything is ruined. So many times, she craved for a helping hand from a friend, she got a helping hand but it was of a friend disguised as a hidden lover. How to maintain and balance a friendship without raising anyone’s hope and without hurting anyone, something she never learnt and failed miserably whenever she tried.  Often, she ended up hurting the other person and in turn hurting herself. Being guilty of crimes she never did haunted her life forever and she couldn’t redeem herself from them.

One big mistake she often did was getting affected by every bad experience she faced and letting it influence every other incident of her life. Her prejudices made her so biased that she lost the proper vision and neutrality while dealing with any situation. She started confusing situations and people. If someone is helping him even without any purpose, she always tried to find any reason for it. Even if someone has intention to be only friends with her, or just a casual conversation, she would always consider that as an attempt to hit on her and she would repel and scare off that person. In the process of staying away from people due to past bad experience, she missed various nice people and many good experiences of life.

There were few things that she learnt gradually like she would remain a matter of public gossip and discussion no matter what she does, she can’t avoid it, she had accepted that as a part of her life. She knew she can’t keep a low profile. People would always be interested in her life and to maintain a low profile while being a pretty girl is impossible. What she loathed was how she had become a brand people just wanted to get associated with. She no longer was considered as a person, or as an individual, or as a friend or something. She was just a brand name everyone likes to have so that they can boast it off. If she had talked with someone for the first time, then that’s an achievement for that person and he would boast it off among many people. Having frequent conversation with her was the ultimate proof of being a ‘cool dude’ or ‘stud’ after all you have tamed the untamed and reached the unreachable.

However, the biggest drawback of all of this was in the process of restraining and constraining herself to attain momentary peace of mind, she stopped being a nice person. She started losing her inner beauty which is far much serene and valuable than any external trait. She started degrading something permanent while tackling something temporary. She was always so obsessed and equipped with her own problems, she was cut off from those who were always there for her and now needed her. She started wasting too much time in useless people and valueless issues that she forgot to invest her time in people precious to her. Just to tackle with people who only looked at her face, she started losing people who were attached to her soul. Her outer being gradually killed her inner being, and she unaware of it, blamed situations and her bad luck that she is left all alone. All she needed was to act like a normal person, taking some time for her friends and family, keeping her problem aside for a while and helping others in their problem.

Yes, her life was hard but not as bad as it looked like. “There is nothing worse than being ordinary” famous dialogue from the movie American Beauty. She should consider her life as a blessing as she was given so many boons and gifts that others just crave for. All that is required is to channel all the negativity into something positive and use it for something constructive. No doubt, her life was not as good as it should be, but it was not as bad as it could be. All she needed was to learn with more freedom, to breathe freely without any thought about others, to care less about other view and more about her own wills. All she needed is to walk and roam around freely unaffected of anything and all she require is to take that one step that would led to that road.

Being born pretty was nature's gift to her, being beautiful is something she has to do by herself.

PS: The content is not aimed at differentiating anyone on the basis of anything. It's just an attempt to look into the problem of those people who generally get more attention than the usual crowd and learn about their mindset. Everyone is beautiful and pretty in their own way and everyone should learn to appreciate that.